Thursday, March 22, 2012


Well that part of this little fiasco seems to be over....soon to be EX has 3 days to change his mind and he still has to sign the quit claim, but I'm keeping my fingers crossed that he won't pull any shit.

He is moving out at the end of May--yeah!  However, that means I have to look at his nasty face for 2 more months.  Blech

He is being very reasonable about what he is going to take with him--except he wants the lawnmower, so I have to go buy one of those.  Everything else is good to go as far as I am to get him to file the dissolution thing at a time I guess, one thing at a time.

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Rolling, rolling, rolling......

So things are rollin right along with my refinance.  I should get the final numbers this week and set up closing towards the end of the month.  SO much paperwork--blech.

Wayward Husband has STILL provided me with no information as to his plans, what he is taking, when he is going, blah blah blah.  WHY?????  WHY?????  HE is the one who wants this, so why isn't he moving forward?  He flipped out that I started the re-fi process so quickly--"Why are you in such a hurry?" he asked.  Well, asshole, because you don't want to be married to me anymore and I'm moving on with my life and planning ahead for me and my daughter.  WHY AREN'T YOU IN SUCH A HURRY?  He has no answers.  He jsut says he doesn't know yet. 

Well mister, if you think I am letting you hang around all up in my business while you wait for your whore to get out of HER marriage so you can have your love nest, you are sadly mistaken.  I want this shit OVER and I want to move on with my life. 

I have great friends who have been keeping me busy and checking on me and taking me out (and being the designated driver so I can get plastered) so, bless their hearts!  This would be so much easier to deal with and I could start coming to terms with things if I didn't have to look at his skanky ass everyday.  UGH!  The tension in the house is SO thick.  It's not good for anyone.

He actually told me to go out and find someone else...I'm sure that would assuage HIS guilt and justify his behaviour, but REALLY?  Why in the hell would I want to put up with someone else's shit right now?  I've GOT friends, family and good company--I don't need hassles...and hell, I've got batteries if things get horrible in that "other" department--heck that is a sure thing and I don't have to make it coffee in the morning!

I feel sorry for people who's live MUST be defined by having someone take care of them all the time.   Maybe that is why he had to have his escape plan set in motion before he would actually piss me off enough to agree to a divorce...HE cannot be alone or take care of himself--he never has had to--From his parents house, to my house--never lived on his "own".  I, on the other hand, have pretty much been on my own since I was 17--I know how to take care of ME and those around me--but I don't want to take care of anyone but my daughter and myself right now.

Keep on praying and keep those good JUJU thoughts going for my refi!!!

Friday, March 2, 2012

Ahhh the joys...

It is so much fun having to try and refinance your house, decide who gets what, worry about how you are going to make ends meet and not try to kill the person who had turned your life into a living hell.

How I am going to survive until he moves out is the question...I cannot stand to even look at him, none the less deal with him.

The house is being refinanced in my name only and I cannot wait for that to be done--keep you fingers crossed that it goes smoothly.

The only stickler in me being able to survive monthly is the stupid car payment I will have to take over--the car is in his name and so is the title...SO tempted to just tell him that it's his problem, but I want to be the bigger person.  I've looked around at other cars and anything decent would only save me about $75 a month at the VERY most...and then I'd have another 5 year loan. Anything used is always full of unknowns and I have to have safe reliable transportatioin for me and my daughter. UGH..It will be less than 4 years left on the car I currently drive, so I might have to suck it up.

I never knew you could actually HATE a person so much that you USED to love so much.